How My Divorce Just Went LIVE..again yall! Check out my Amazing Podcast I did with “Write Books That Sell Now”! I sat down with these Amazing women and it was an experience of a lifetime! Check it out here! I’m “Telling My Personal Story”!!! If you have a few minutes, this interview is POWERFUL!
http://writebooksthatsellnow.com/podcast/episode-3-telling-your-personal-story-with-april-moncrief/
How My Divorce Saved My Marriage is on HLN this morning! Click the link below and I pray it blesses you all this morning!
So Here it is everyone if you missed me on HLN this morning! Here’s the link to the segment I shot with Lynn Smith on HLN Express a few weeks ago! What an Awesome God we serve! Praying God blesses this segment and all who view it! We’re running through the house over here everyone:)! THIS, is all a GOD thing! This is what we have worked so hard to get to! We want people to know that if you want your relationship back and are willing to put in the work and relinquish the Pride and put it all in God’s hands, Restoration is possible! Ask me how I know! #Grateful! And Please SHARE this link on your social media sites, email and websites if you feel led to do so. You never know who needs to hear that God is a God Restoration. Thanks again everyone!
And if you haven’t already, please go grab your copy of “How My Divorce Saved My Marriage” at http://www.amazon.com before it’s on backorder…again!
http://www.hlntv.com/shows/weekend-express/articles/2015/12/06/divorce-saved-their-marriage
So I know that title may sound a bit disturbing to some but to the majority of my readers, I pray you all get where I’m going with this, lol. #ILITERALLYMarriedmyfather! As most who know me know that I am a true daddy’s girl, always have been! But now let’s be clear, my daddy hasn’t always been a daughter’s daddy. I love my daddy with everything in me but I won’t lie like he’s always been a stand up father. As I got older and began to understand my daddy’s situation and I began to empathize with how he was raised and the things that he saw and/or endured as a young man, I began to “get it”! He “daddied” based on how he was daddied, plain and simple. You can’t give what you kind of never got. Or, you basically imitate what you saw.
So I forgave my daddy for a lot of things that I felt were honestly him basically being a product of his environment. So I said all of that to say, to the women out there who instantly go to a negative place when you think of your father, I get it! And I was honestly in the same place for a long time when people would compare my husband to my dad. I would strike back with, “No, my husband is nothing like my daddy”! But that’s because my mind always went to the not so happy memories and images of my father but honestly, my husband IS my father, in so many ways! What I had to understand was that, it wasn’t the bad things about my father people were seeing in my husband, but the truly Amazing and heart warming things about my dad that my husband embodies!
My dad is a character!!! He was the first hilariously funny dude in my life and I always say how grateful I am for the ability to LAUGH, not only at myself but umm, achem, at “OTHERS” as well, if truth be told! LOL! My daddy is CRAY’!!! And will make you pee your pants laughing, my husband, the EXACT same way, EXACTLY, Lol! But it’s not just the silly, funny stuff! His mannerisms are almost identical to my my dad’s!
I mean there have been countless times I’ve said to my husband, “Oh my God, what are you wearing, you smell just like my daddy”. Or, “baby, when you wear that hat like that you look just like daddy”! LOL! I know, its crazy;)!!! But as of late, which is kind of the reason for this blog post, I’ve been noticing more and more “actions” done by my husband that Mimics almost to the tee, “actions” of my daddy in the scariest & strangest ways.
Now mind you, my husband never knew of my dad until he and I met. But as a little girl, my daddy use to carry around a very itty – bitty jar of vaseline in the glove box of his car, in a brown paper bag in the trunk, EVERY WHERE, lol, and he wasn’t sharing it with any of us! No sticky, icky fingers dipping around in “his” personal “grease”, Lol! He would take it out and moisturize his hands and put some on his lips and put it right back in the glove compartment of his car, right in front of my ashy knees and hands, Lol! I know kind of weird, right; )! And weird because for one, who carries around “Jars of vaseline”!?!? Especially if you also have the little tube of lip balm in your pocket!!! LOL! Yes, my daddy stayed “greased up”! Lol!
Well, in my cleaning the bathroom this morning, I was under his (my husband’s) side of the sink, pulling things out and throwing things away and guess what I stumbled upon!?!? That “itty-bitty” jar of vaseline that my daddy use to keep hidden from us! Lol! I just picked it up and began to burst into laughter as tears formed in my eyes;). “Yep, no more denying it”, I finally said out loud to myself, “Peaches, you married your daddy”!
So I wanted to pose the same question to many of you ladies out there, married or “seriously” dating, “Did you Marry, or are seriously dating, your daddy”??? I’m leading with the hashtag, #IMarriedMyDaddy….And I’m showing or telling you HOW I think I married my daddy with a photo or story. And men, you all welcome to get in on the action as well! Yes! Lol! #IMarriedMyMoma! And I want a picture or stories explaining HOW you know this to be true guys;)! I want to show how eerily important our relationships are with our children because unbeknownst to us, we tend to link up with and later Marry our parents! You know what I mean;). So that’s my story yall…and my picture of that very small, itty-bitty jar of vaseline!!! LOL! Happy Monday after Thanksgiving! Be Blessed in it! #HowMyDivorceSavedMyMarriage #HMDSMM
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I wanted to thank Bernetta Jackson-Knighten of The Knighten Project for having me on as a guest last night, discussing “How My Divorce Saved My Marriage”! It was an Amazing experience and I can’t thank you enough for the opportunity Bernetta! If you missed it, of which alot of you texted or messaged us last night to let us know, then no worries, here’s the interview in it’s entirety right here! So much fun! Felt like we were sitting on the couch just catching up together Bernetta! Looking forward to future endeavors together! #HowMyDivorceSavedMyMarriage #HMDSMM
Okay everybody, Get Geady! I’m teaming up with The Knighten Project, and we’ll be discussing my latest book, “How My Divorce Saved My Marriage”. The Knighten Project is an amazing organization that focuses on inspiring Hope in everyday people by helping to facilitate their biggest dreams! So on Tuesday, September 29, 2015 @ 9pm, you’re invited to the Dream Chat hangout to hangout with myself and the founder of The Knighten Project, Bernetta Jackson-Knighten! We’ll be discussing the struggles and strategies I used in my marriage to turn it into, not only a dream marriage, but now a dream career for me! Hope to see/hear you there! By the way, the link to sign up/register for the Dream Chat is right here!
Guess who’ll be home, signing copies of her latest book, How My Divorce Saved My Marriage”??? Yep, the Marriage & Relationship Maven herself, April Moncrief! Yes everybody, I’ll be HOME, speaking at the Annual Women’s Conference @ SpringHill Ame Zion Church, Saturday, September 26, 2015, Time: 11am-2pm. And in the midst of all of the book signing and “Selling”, and yes, I’ll have books to sell if you haven’t purchased yours as of yet, they’ll be GIVEAWAYS!!! Can’t wait! See yall @ SpringHill on next week, September 26th! #HowMyDivorceSavedMyMarriage #HMDSMM #WomensConference
Kansas! Tampa! Baltimore! Montgomery! Atlanta! Prattville! Chicago! Nashville! Kennesaw! Marietta! DC! Yall Ready!?!? They’re On Their Way!!! Let’s take these cities by storm guys! By starting the discussion most won’t have! #HMDSMM!
Alright #HMDSMM Hosts!!! Guess what just arrived!?!? Your FREE copies of “How My Divorce Saved My Marriage”!!! I’m so Excited right now! (Just ran through the house screaming, Thank you God”!) Lol! Okay, first official signed autographed copy goes to….April Thomas of Marietta, Georgia!!! Thanks for being ON IT lady as soon as I put the call out!!! You get the 1st signed copy! But don’t fret hostesses, ALL of you will be getting a signed copy of “How My Divorce Saved My Marriage” in the mail!!! Yaaay! Hopefully you all will receive your copies by this week! They go out first thing in the am! Yaaaay! Also, I hope you’ve already sent out your invites and links to Amazon to your guests so that they’re able to purchase their books! Remember, its a party and book discussion inclusive of ALL! Invite who you like but know that it can be for men, women, married, single, dating, seperated, divorced, family, friends, co-workers and even your church family/members;)! Invite them all out to what’s sure to be a very deep and personal night of discussion! Can’t wait to see those group “Selfies/Usies”!!! Lol! Thanks again everyone! Be on the lookout! #HMDSMM #BookClubDiscussion!
Good Morning Everyone! Just wanted to drop by to Share some Exciting News!!!
It’s here! On Amazon.com! “How My Divorce Saved My Marriage”. Click the link below for your e-book/kindle version of what will soon be New York Times’s #1 Best Seller, “How My Divorce Saved My Marriage”. The link to purchase your kindle version is below. The link to purchase the actual book will be available by end of the week, latest, Monday of next week! Stay Tuned! The best is yet to come! #HowMyDivorceSavedMyMarriag #HMDSMM #Amazon.com #e-book
http://www.amazon.com/How-Divorce-Saved-Marriage-Hard-Learned-ebook/dp/B0149DODDS/
I remember very vividly, right before one of our big cookout/get togethers that we were hosting at our home, and oh yeah, the arguments always seemed to happen right before people were due to arrive at the house (are we honestly the only ones, lol!?!?), we would have one of our ridiculously BIG fights! We knew people were about to walk through the doors at any minute, so what did we do!?!? We pulled out those 2 familiar people that we ONLY bring out for special occasions. It was the “fake happily married Herman and April”. On one particular cookout eve, we had been having a heated argument the entire morning, and nothing really to do with anything except that we were both under a tremendous amount of stress trying to get everything ready for our party.
We had about 50 people headed our way and the food wasn’t even on the grill, the bathrooms hadn’t been cleaned and the kids weren’t even dressed, and neither were we. I’ve always been pretty neurotic about cleaning before, and after, people would come over. And I’m also very particular about at least being presentable when folks hit the door and none of that had been done because I was too busy helping my husband with items that he “should have” taken care of days before. But of course, in only true, “Procrastination style”, my amazingly intelligent, beautifully handsome, loving husband, “WAITS” until the very last minute to get the food prepped for the cookout as well as buy any type of beverages (yes, there wasn’t even a juice box in the house,lol) and a host of other “to do’s”. Long story short, we were taking some serious jabs at each other that whole morning. Me, proclaiming very loudly, “I wish for the day when this man would “finally” get his act together”! And him just simply “wishing me away! Out of his face, nagging him to death”!
So to say the least, that morning was horrible! We weren’t really speaking to each other. just a mere mumble under our breath or an “excuse me”, as we both happened to walk down the hallway at the same time. We never even made eye contact with one another, well, that is, until the doorbell rang! Lol. Yes, the first guest to hit the door was always the one who was unknowingly walking into “God knows what” before an event at our house:). As I had just finished brushing my son’s hair and applying a quick dab of lip gloss on my lips, I ran downstairs full speed, flung the door open and greeted our very first guest with a, “Hey Yall”! LOL! Yes, if there was some tension in our home before that doorbell rang, there would not be a soul who would know it:). This was my and my husband’s normal routine a few hours before any event we were throwing at the house. As guests would continue to arrive, one after the other, the bigger my smile got and the FAKER my happy got:)! Herman and I even talked in the direction of one another while people were there. No one was the wiser, well, except us. So the get together went off as planned! Everyone in attendance had a great time, heck, even Herman and I mustered up a laugh or 2 and even joked with one another while all of our friends gathered around in the kitchen swapping stories on marriage and children. It was a great time! Until the last guest left and the door to our supposedly happy home closed for the last time that night. It was deafening silence in the house again. Each of us, reserved to our corner of the house, picking up empty soda cans and half eaten plates of chicken and mac n’ cheese. I was cleaning the kitchen and he was on the outside blowing out the mosquito lanterns and squeezing out wet towels that had been left lying in the yard from the kids playing on the slip and slide. As we finished the last of the cleaning we went up to check on the kids before we called it a night, still, not a word to each other. We had managed to fake a beautiful and happy marriage for the past 10 hours and no one had a clue.
Fast forward a few years, do we still have those crazy and stressful moments right before a gathering at our house, or just in our marriage in general? But of course we do! Lol. Just because we’ve remarried and learned the error of our ways, my husband’s personality is still “wait to the last minute”, lol, it’s just who he is by nature and we dare not mess with nature, right:)!?!? And I’m still the high strung, very organized creature he met 20 years ago. No changing that! However, we’ve made some serious changes in how we deal with and respond to one another. My husband may not “love” my very organized and structured ways but he’s learned that because it may not be an important issue to him, it doesn’t mean it’s not important. And I too have learned that if it’s not done, no one will die! LOL! Yall laughing but I truly have to repeat those words to myself almost daily (house cleaning, errands, kids homework, activities, emails, etc)! Okay I’m kidding, “kind of”! Therefore, the fake happily married Herman and April rarely make an appearance as much these days. We’ve come to the realization in our relationship that happiness is only part of the equation, having respect, love and admiration for one another are far more important than “happy” will ever be. Our reasoning, if your relationship has those key elements (respect, love and admiration and not necessarily in that order, lol), the happy will come! And there should be no time in your marriage when you feel you have to “Fake Happily Married”, not even for a stress-filled party at your house! LOL!
Disclaimer: The fake happily married Herman and April will, from time to time, make appearances right before a couple’s trip, a wedding, funeral or any type of family get together! Lol. Come on, I said we’re “learning”…we’re not perfect! LOL! #HowMyDivorceSavedMyMarriage #HMDSMM
April Moncrief 